
My wife and I were very excited to find out that we were going to have a child! It was 10 September of 2001, as I remember it- the day before the infamous World Trade Center terrorist attacks. That’s another story, beyond the scope of this piece, but worth noting. We had found out that we were expecting! Before this time, we were treating our Australian cattle dog, Mr. Moo, as our child, as some folks do. During that time, Aja and I would dream together and move about, hiking and swimming or going sledding- in the winter, or taking road trips whenever we had the money and inclination to do so. It was mostly a carefree time.Then the little boy came.
Now, I have always wanted to have children. I made a wonderful older brother (so says my mother) and was able to look after my siblings, six of them, from an early age. I also enjoyed looking after my baby cousins while I was growing up. I thought,”I’ll make a great dad some day.” One time when one of my cousins was a toddler, she was sick, so I went with her mother, Vikki, to the ER, to get baby Alli checked out. The nurse said,”She’s gonna be fine, Dad.” Vikki and I laughed because I was maybe 17. Years old and Vikki was some ten years my senior. At the same time, the thought stayed with me that it would make me proud to be a father and to raise children of my own. I thought that growing up as an eldest brother and helpful cousin would have well prepared me for the role of father. I never really took into account the fact that I could wait out any difficulty with either my little cousins or my siblings, long enough for their parents to get home, when trouble would arise. Well, I would learn that being an actual parent is way, way different.
As soon as little Isaiah was born, I was so happy. He was so tiny, and his initial crying was so pitiful and cute. I held him and hogged him all to myself whenever I could. I loved to run my finger over his little pink toes. He was just so adorable and his diapers didn’t have an odor yet; and they were like little raviolis!!!I won’t get too in depth with the diaper odor. But it came eventually.
When we brought Isaiah home, all the sweet little bundle wanted to do was sleep… when it was daytime. “Let him SLEEP, Roy!” Aja would scold. I would gaze into his little baby, adorable face! I would adore this teeny person wrapped in his teensy blanket for hours at a time, okay it seemed like hours. Then it was time for bed at night, and Aja and I would go to bed. We all slept through the night , so peacefully, so soundly. NOT! Isaiah was like a little fire siren. “AWAAAAAHAWAAHHHHHH!” He would wail.I thought, “Man alive, does this kid ever stop crying?” Eventually, I would invent something that I still call”Rootin Tootin’ Time”. This is how I learned to get the most out of our awake time at night. I would take Isaiah from the bassinet, and carry him to the living room to watch either “The Andy Griffith Show”, or the film, “Red River” with John Wayne(both on DVD, as we did not and still do not watch TV per se, but use digital or video means to view. ) We watched the Ma & Pa Kettle films a lot in those days, old fashioned shows that still prized old time values. I fed Isaiah a bottle of prepared breast milk, and rock him to sleep in my comfy chair, so Aja would not have to be the only one who got up with him at night. I sometimes did not return to my bed, and Aja wold sense that, and come to take the baby from my limp arms. I sort of miss those days. We’ve done it six times since then, by having more little ones. It’s unique each time, but we always use some similar principles, of course.
At first, I was shocked that Isaiah was a conformist in my domain, my own home! It was a real adjustment for me, a trial by fire and a hurdle! I have worked jobs and have done things to keep my family strong that I may never have done before I had children. I can tell you this: no sacrifice has been too great since the day I held my first son, Isaiah, in my arms. I can see now, that the family that my wife, Aja, and I have begun to raise, is greater than the sum of its parts, and I can see now that it is worth it. I want them to be physically and spiritually cared for. It’s okay if I don’t get all the ME time that I once felt so entitled to. I’m involved in something far more valuable, and it’s only just begun.
I thank God that He has chosen to give this blessing and great responsibility. May we take this seriously and do it as unto the Lord and for His glory.
Amen!






